What We Really Lose

Hello, Readers. As I’m sure you can all relate, in one way or another, writing about our past trauma can bring up a whole mess of feelings. I started this site in a self-righteous act of bringing healing to others.  I had no idea that I still had so much to heal from myself.  Reading…

Rape Culture

  Please Read this article for great information and statistics; Source: Rape Culture

Every Man A Victim

I know, I know, what the hell, right? It’s just that something has been bothering me.  I was in an abusive relationship a while ago.  It didn’t last for too long, and it wasn’t as bad as those TV shows want you to believe.  But, it was still enough for my life to take a 180. I’ve…

Never settle for abuse

This quote is the truth as i know it: We often think that abuse is the norm. We watch our parents, our peers, we even watch the movies and think this is how it’s supposed to be. It isn’t. You are a gift to this world. Your life is precious and it deserves to be […]…

Feel Free

Feel free to choke on your own arrogance. © Sarah Doughty This isn’t directed at anyone in particular. But we’ve all come across people that think they are superior. Source: Feel Free

(2/3) THE GIRL WHO LOST HERSELF.

It’s a scary statistic – that out of every 100 rapes, only two rapists will spend a single day in jail. What happens to the other 98? They walk free. They live out the rest of their lives as they choose. 98 of every 100 rapists blend in with the rest of the population. They…

Crawling Out of the Darkness – Part 1

I have literally started this post several times over, but am determined to get my thoughts out in a clear and concise way.  This week, I have read a number of posts written by those struggling with, let’s call them, negative feelings.  As I read about each of your battles, I am reminded of the…

Survivor Wall – P’s Story of Emotional Abuse

It took me a long time to get to where I am now. I parted ways with my abuser (kind of) about 7 years ago. At times I feel like I can forgive and that I am at peace with everything, but that is rare and fleeting. I realized I had been abused 4 months…

It’s Been One Of Those Weeks

Well, I’ve done it again. After committing to yet another project of putting this site together, I got cold feet and gave up for a bit.  This is nothing new for me. As maybe other survivors can attest, doubting yourself is a very real consequence of an abusive relationship.  The constant wondering of whether you’re…

Never Enough- Why You Cant Heal In Black And White

I started this site for selfish reasons.  I thought I could bestow my wisdom on others, and help them through their healing process.  I knew sharing survival stories and networking was an integral part of that, but I wanted to become a mentor; a guiding light to those lost on their journey. So… in other…

What rape did to me

I’ve been thinking about what in my story could help others. I’m a firm believer that what was meant for evil, God will use for good. Then I think maybe it’s just the pure fact that I’ve learned to survive, maybe that is the encouragement. It has been a long road, one I’ve just recently…