Ladies, I had a meltdown last night. Only, true to my introverted self, nobody could tell because it was entirely internal.
This post will possibly be a trigger for some, so please be prepared for that.
So, unless you live under a rock, you heard about Trump’s scandalous video that was released yesterday. (And since there are so many, I mean this one). But he’s basically talking about women as though he can have whatever he wants, whenever he wants, because of who he is. And he uses some pretty vulgar language.
I talked to my husband about this. Now, I don’t want this to turn into a political discussion, but I’ve pretty much given up on the elections now. I hate all the candidates. But anyways, we were talking about how this would affect his campaign.
He told me that although it was disgusting the way he was talking, it wasn’t anything every guy on the planet has said. He said men just talk that way. All the time. Now, before you bash my husband, he did affirm multiple times that just because it happens all the time, it is not right to talk about women that way. He just said men were “wired” like this.
Then, fast forward to a show we were watching a few hours later. There was a joke (here’s the trigger warning) about a sexual position named the “bronco.”
Basically, the guy is behind, says another woman’s name, and when the woman tries to get away, he grabs on for the “ride”.
This was a joke. All these guys just sitting around laughing. Even a woman was laughing. My husband was laughing.
I. Was. Not. Laughing.
This absolutely disgusted me. How, and why, would this be acceptable?
So I went to bed early. I just couldn’t stand the planet anymore. And then I got lost in my own thinking.
If men really are “wired” that way, and can honestly make jokes about sex like it’s something trivial, then where does that leave women?
I mean, if it’s truly not a big deal for men to think that way, then what is rape? Is it just something we made up? Like, beyond the forcible rape from a stranger in an alley, is it just something men honestly think is normal. Like they are “owed” it for some reason?
Are men honestly programmed to think that if they seduce and charm a woman for a certain period of time, then they are entitled to sex? If a man provides for you, then should you “provide” for him?
I just went down a rabbit hole last night. Completely lost. Questioning everything again. Like, what if I actually was crazy? It didn’t really happen at all. It’s just a “guy thing”.
I don’t know. I just truly lost it last night. Ugh.